Regardless of what you think, you are right. If you think you can, you will. If you think you are not capable, or that you will fail, more than likely you are right. If you think you are brilliant, can accomplish anything you decide to do, more than likely, you are right.
Follow these ten steps to confidence. Pick one or two, pick five or all ten. One day at a time you will build your confidence. Every day will bring more strength.
1. It’s not about you.
There is never a reason to link someone's behavior to you. Peoples actions rarely have anything to do with you. Your reaction to the environment around you has everything to do with you. It is your choice. Remember someone else's actions are rarely about you. It is easy to read others actions and see it as a slight to us. People are people. There is never need to link their reaction to our happiness.
2. Buy clothes that fit.
If we feel good, we look good; we exude confidence. Every time we leave home and think we look good we are much more confident. Don't wait until you have arrived at some magical time. Love what you’re wearing, and the world is likely to love it too.
3. Keep laughing.
Laugh, laugh every day. If you find your mood is dark, make way for laughter. Laughter truly is the best medicine. Don’t overdo it but some levity brings great confidence. Laughter releases the tension that builds every day.
4. Embrace the quiet.
We do not have to fill every waking moment with activity. Learn to meditate. Be comfortable being alone with your thoughts. It will breed confidence and solutions. Again, embrace the quiet.
5. Make a budget.
The most prominent worries in our life are almost always financial. Confidence does not necessarily come with a lot of cash. It still comes with knowing how to handle your finances. Not spending all your energy worrying about money frees you to be whatever you choose.
6. Don’t gossip.
None of us like it when someone gossips about us. Spreading lies or half-truths. Sometimes it makes us feel accepted and in the loop. Think, you want to be included in this loop? No one becomes better by spreading gossip.
7. Do what you say you are going to, say what you are going to do.
A man indeed is weak if he gives up his honor. Do what you say you will do. Confidence comes when you do not have to decide, the decision is already made at a subconscious level.
8. Make peace with your body.
You always want to improve your health, stay active. It is essential to your well being and health. That said, no matter your size, wrinkles shape, know you deserve respect and love from all around you. Confidence will be your guide.
9. Understand you know more than you think you do.
I often caution people to remember we are all different and we are. We all get caught in a trap that everyone knows more than us, and we are going to be exposed as a fraud. It is just not right. Give your self-benefit you know more than you think you do. Admit when you do not have an answer. A massive step to building your daily confidence.
10.Be enthusiastic.
Be happy, be excited and let everyone know. Playing it cool was great for high school. It ignores your emotions and buries the real you. Your enthusiasm will be contagious as will the confidence it gives you.
Remember, you are always in the right place, at the right time if you have the right attitude.
